Tuesday, 14 January 2020

Trust the Journey - Getting to Know Me


Many times during the course of my life I have taken a leap of faith.

Giving up a job with no other job to go to, but finding one within days and being all the more happier for doing so.  

Selling all our possessions and moving a hundred miles from my family with a husband that wanted to be nearer to his family, to live in a flat neither of us had seen and for him to start his own window cleaning business.

Leaving a husband of 26 years because I knew he was so engrained in a rut that I was desperately trying to climb out of for the sanity of myself and my younger son.  By this time my elder son was in the Army.

Renting a house for the two of us and my four cats because I saw a board go up in the street behind the shop I was working in at the time.  I saw it on the Monday, we were living in it by the following week.  With only a bed each, lots of boxes of books and two armchairs that came with the house.  


Getting legally separated.

Spending two happy years just the two of us (and of course the puss cats) finding our feet in the world together.  No car, no money, paying my way out of the debts I had brought with me from my marriage.

 Getting divorced.

Meeting a guy on-line … and then marrying him three years later.  

Switching from managing a shop for someone else to owning one of my own, just because each night on the way home from work I passed a lonely little boarded up shop and felt it calling to me.

Giving up everything I loved to start a new life in the country.

Realising the new life was not what I wanted, as things had veered in another direction.



Being totally unafraid of starting all over again.

Having a feeling that in this my 60th year …  perhaps the best is yet to come.


There, that's me … what has been your journey?


Sue xx



18 comments:

  1. Leaps of faith, following your gut, and trusting in the journey.

    God bless.

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  2. Meeting my husband when I was 16, and still at school, and after 3 months, agreeing to marry him. Doing just that a couple of years later, despite being hated by his family. Walking away from people and jobs that brought nothing but aggravation to my life, and trusting that I could manage our small income well enough for us not just to survive but thrive as a family on one low income. Returning to education at 40. First to the local college, then to uni 25 miles away, and achieving the first class degree that I knew I was capable of, despite having to take a year out due to the diagnosis of a heart condition, and winning a scholarship for academic excellence along the way. Changing my life and my health by losing a total of 7 stones, and becoming the person that I should always have been.

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    1. Oh WOW!! A wonderful life shaping and very positive journey :-)

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  3. What a lovely journey!!! After clawing my way back financially after divorce...I do not think I can ever take that marriage leap of faith again! I will never again rely on another person for my happiness or financial security. Sad but true for me...other than that I will leap for anything else! HA!

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    1. I understand that completely. I've always been of the opinion that you should never rely on someone else to make you happy nor be responsible for another person's happiness. And independent financial security is a must. I am totally self reliant in all things … except for working the new central heating panel Alan has just had installed … I just do without and light the log burner … haha!!

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  4. You are an inspiration!

    Good for you, and your son.

    My feeling is, we do not stay the same, even in "the same situation." I married the perfect man, for me. So I never had to "move." But I did make personal major changes in my beliefs/views, at the ripe old age of 60. -smile- That was not a quick decision. It was a long process. It has improved my (and his) quality of life.

    But it's not easy, to make drastic change, even though these changes, are "inside," at 60.

    ♫♪•*¨*•.¸¸.•*¨*•♪♫

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    1. Internal changes just like external ones can be equally dramatic and life changing. It takes guts to re-evaluate how we live and the things we choose to do.

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  5. Married at 22 after courting for three years, three lovely boys, two are twins, Divorced after thirteen years, ten of which were really unhappy but hung on because of the children, felt brave enough to do it then spent one year on my own with the boys before meeting current husband through an old fashioned dating site. Proposed to on third date , still married 28 years later. Downsized to beautiful Cornwall three years ago it was the best move we could have made as we have found assisted living for both twins ( now 37 ), one has aspergers and the other severe epilepsy and they are just half a mile away from us and at last independent , last year was very emotional as son had brain surgery for epilepsy in order to hopefully stop them but in December he had the biggest seizures he had ever had, I thought I had lost him so we don't know what happens now. We are so blessed, all still here, all have a home, not rich but thankful and value every day, eldest son doing well in the RAF, ,two dogs enriching our lives and keeping us sane. Wishing you happiness in this next stage of your lives together and sod everybody else ( to a certain extent ). Chrissie

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    1. That year on your own was brave, I bet you learnt SO much. I guess you have to take each day/week/month as it comes with your twin boys.

      As much as our dogs need us we really need them don't we. ♥️

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  6. So interesting to read of your life's adventure and also that of your commenters.

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    1. It seems we've all had interesting lives, you too Pat. Xx

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  7. Your post shows that you're a brave lady, Sue. Be proud of yourself. X

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    1. Thank you, what a lovely comment. I am proud of myself ... sometimes 🙂

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  8. I wish I was braver at times for sure. Like you I've walked away from jobs and walked straight into another. I've certainly had my comfort zone pushed to its limit at times. You've made some very difficult decisions but you survived and grew from the experience. X

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    1. I think we're all brave when we need to be, and all braver than we think we are in day to day living. It takes guts to put yourself out there in this world at the moment.

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  9. Sue I think that you are so brave and you have accomplished SO much and still striving to achieve what makes you happy. I am afraid I am not a brave person at all and hate to be out of my comfort zone. The bravest thing we did was sell our home and move to Anglesey ( a life long dram of mine). Unfortunately it didn't work out and I must admit, in hindsight, I wish we had never done it and stayed in the home we had. As I get older, being brave gets harder.

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    1. Just doing what you did was brave … admitting it was a mistake was even braver still !!

      We all make mistakes, indeed I think it's our mistakes that can make us bigger and better people once we move on from them. You should be glad that you had the guts to sell up and move to Anglesey, a dream realised even if it turned out not to be the right dream ... is still a dream realised.

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