There's been some confusion over my new-ish blog and many questions, rumours and speculation from lots of people ... friends, family and some of my previous blog readers. Van life suits me just fine, it's something I have always wanted, a smaller life and A Smaller Life are making me so happy but it's been a journey and a half to get here.
With so many questions from so many sources I thought that while I have a little bit of time, the use of the desktop computer and while I had some of the sorted out books to hand to photograph I would put a few records straight. Pull up your chair, blow on your coffee and get ready for a read.
The books on the table in the top photograph are a few of my favourites, they are books that I have read over and over ... in some cases since the mid 80's. Each in their own way, along with other as yet unsorted books, have inspired me and set me on a path for a simpler, slower and more rewarding way of life.
A box of some of the sorted books that we bought after starting, and whilst living Our New Life in the Country. Books that although at first glance are on a similar theme to mine, are much more Alan's sort of self sufficiency ... in my opinion more hardcore self sufficiency. And something I quietly rebelled at almost from day one.
In my mind I wanted back yard self sufficiency ... a vegetable plot, four hens, an open fire and a larder with enough homemade jams and pickles to see us through the Winter. Alan was on a slightly different tack and between us we grew our ideas and followed a wider, more diverse road.
Back in the Autumn of 2008 after watching the River Cottage television programmes we went to River Cottage HQ for a day out and met and chatted to the lovely Hugh Fearnley Whittingstall. He had started in his first series in a similar way to my ideas ... small scale self sufficiency to prove you could feed yourself through the year from the garden of a rustic cottage. I bought into this.
He signed our diary for the coming year and confirmed in our minds that changing our lives was what we wanted to do.
Alan meanwhile was buying into the scale that River Cottage had grown into. The solar energy, harnessing wind power, making excess food to sell on at farmers markets, having more chickens to have more eggs to make everything self financing and well, just bigger.
We placed an advert in The Farmers Weekly and the Farmers Guardian to test the waters. Little did we know that within days we would have a phone call, and within weeks we would have upped sticks and moved ourselves and our pets to the opposite end of the country. Closing a business and changing our lives almost overnight. It was all an exciting and wonderful adventure.
We kept our diary ... and the ones for years after that.
Family and friends both old and new helped us build our new life, and we all enjoyed setting things up, life was good. And although I had many dark days, the excitement of this whole new way of life and blogging about it to my lovely readers kept me sane and made each day seem bearable.
We moved from the first rented farm in Oxfordshire to a smaller place in Berkshire while we saved the deposit for what we thought would be our forever home, and then when we managed that and found this house we moved again. We've built up a good life here over the last six years and the plan was always after a couple of years to be doing it together ... but plans don't always work out the way you think they will.
Alan never did retire from the day job. He discovered that he loved his work too much to stop and be a smallholder full time, and between the money it brings in and the way it keeps his mind whirring with ideas, it was something he just couldn't part with and I understand that completely.
But always at the back of my mind was my sort of self sufficiency.
So now this is what I am doing, what we are doing. Winding down in the gentlest of ways our self sufficient lifestyle in favour of a slower, simpler and yes Smaller Life.
One in which we take everything we have learned over the years and make it work for us in the way we each want it to work. Together, always together. Soulmates don't give up on each other, they bounce ideas off each other, share lives and adventures. Whether they be big adventures, small adventures or just ideas shared over a cup of coffee sat in the sun in the garden of caravan with dogs snoozing at our feet, birds singing in the trees ... and just a single row of Spring Onions and a rampant Spinach plant growing in an old tin bath.
Sue xx
If there are any questions please ask them on this post ... I don't normally do Q+As but I will today :-)
What an interesting post. I admire how you're following your dream and finding a way for it to work for you both. Although it wouldn't suit me, I like to read about alternatives ways of living.
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DeleteWell done. I follow and have done for some time. I am pleased you have got this far, enjoying your lives. Lovely.
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DeleteSo pleased and proud of you both Love MUM XXX P.S. Wonderful post !
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DeleteI know VC isn't she lovely :-)
She sounds fab. These Manc mums eh? Mine is also a smasher!
DeleteOver the years I have met many people who moved to West Wales, thinking that running a smallholding would be a simpler life. Most were not prepared for the endless, sometimes backbreaking work involved, the financial outlay needed in the first place followed by the lack of actual cash if something goes wrong. Add to that the distances and travel costs involved in rural life and the weather - people, it rains a lot in Wales! - and the need to raise animals which, on a small scale, becomes personal, and then to have to slaughter them. It is really hard.
ReplyDeleteHFW has dozens of people in the background, and income from books and journalism; I've also met people who settled here in the days of the great self-sufficiency guru, John Seymour. Again, he had lots of 'students' to help!
I come from farming stock, love the countryside and love my garden, but if I was thinking of simplifying my life further I would do a version of what you have done. Mine would be a compact terraced house near a good range of shops and a good bus service!
All credit to you and Alan for working out what really matters to each of you.
Yes I much preferred HFW's early days when it literally was just him (his wife always out of filming) living in the little cottage for the programme. Then of course it went mainstream and the team was gathered and THAT was what appealed to Alan.
DeleteNow we have sorted out what we each want after trialling many ways, life is back on an even keel. But you don't know if you don't try and that has been the fun side of things. Yes, Wales is wet, but it's also fresh, beautiful and much easier to be small-holders in than either Oxfordshire or Berkshire.
Alan has never had a problem with raising and slaughtering animals, our very first pig Betty filled the freezer for months and was eaten mostly by him. The only 'livestock' to cause him any trouble was our large meat cockerel Norman, who had to be culled as he had a gammy leg and developed a problem with his good leg. Alan said he put up such a valiant fight for life that it would have been wrong to eat him!! Of course I have never eaten any of our animals being vegetarian/vegan throughout the years we have lived this way.
Thank you for this post. I understood what you were wanting to do. Can you project into the future or is it strictly one day at a time?
ReplyDeleteDo you think you will both move from your Welsh home or will Alan be able to manage a scaled down version with fewer animals and no vegetables etc?
We are having a rethink about our home and lifestyle.
I think everyone has to at various points of their life. Ours is because my health issues mean I cannot do what I did and I was very depressed, bad tempered and, above all panic stricken.
Once we'd sat down and faced the difficulties together we both felt much better and we have a plan and practice in place.
Like you two we communicate with each other until we get problems sorted.
It has been a stumbling block but now we an move on to the next phase in a positive frame of mind.
You two sound as though you are well on the way.
Thank you for sharing with us. You are a great encourager.
Sue.
Yes, I can project into the future ... but you know me things change, sometimes on a whim and sometimes more slowly if Alan can hold me back for a while ;-)
DeleteWe WILL move from this Welsh home into our smaller Welsh flat, we need an office base for our company and the flat has a spare bedroom that will work just fine. But there's no rush, unless someone makes us an offer we can't refuse for everything lock, stock and barrel, then I think we would both be happy to simply walk away immediately.
Alan doesn't WANT to manage a scaled down version of animals or vegetables, we BOTH want to move on with just the pets. Ethel is getting very elderly, and her arthritic hip is bothering her, and although her lamb is doing well we think Ethel may need to be humanely put to sleep in the next few months. Jasmine will most likely be gifted to Will the shepherd, as she is a magnificent lamb and would fit in with his flock. Any shepherd that can call his sheep to a gate for loading or treatments, not needing the assistance of any dogs, is a good man in our book and a worthy new owner for Jasmine.
Yes communication has been the key to all of these decisions. We have had months of not completely being open with each other, each not wanting to hurt the other, but once we sat and let everything pour out we could immediately see the way forward.
Life happens eh and compromise is what it's all about!
ReplyDeleteExactly ... compromise and communication. And you know me, I'm always happy to share with my readers as I set off on a new path.
DeleteI can't wait to hear about the travel!
DeleteWe had the smallholding life for so many years and loved it all.
ReplyDeleteI think we might have gone on for many more years gradually scaling down to just what we could manage easily as we got older.
Best laid plans!
I'm glad you have worked it out to suit you both.
I think a part of our decision has been that we had you and Col in the back of our minds. You had the lovely life you chose together, doing just as we have done and are doing, nipping and tucking it out of necessity to suit the stages of your lives ... and then you had such great plans for the future. When these were snatched away from you I think a lot of us, your readers, took a step back and a had a bit of a re-evaluation. I know I did.#
DeleteWe have had plans to travel for a while and really want to do this with our spare time ... and as you know there's not a lot of spare time with land and animals to care for. We'll see where our plans take us, but it will be fun deciding what to do first.
My husband's cardiac arrest a few months ago has made us stop and think about how to manage the future. We got rid of all personal debt years ago and have been focusing on paying off the mortgage early (all being well, this will be achieved by the end of this year). For choice, we would move to a cottage by the sea, have a little bit of land, chickens, grown some veg and fruit but given that I have permanent health issues and my husband has permanent damage to his heart, we have got to be realistic. It's easy to make plans assuming that we will both grown old at the same rate together but last year's shock made me realise that we need to be able to cope individually if necessary, not just as a team. That may sound a bit morbid to some of your readers but my husband was actually dead, brought back and was in a critical condition for three weeks so I know what may be ahead. We just need to work out what to do and I think the secret is to make plans before we are perhaps forced into changing them. One thing I do know, is that I live in a wonderful supportive community.
DeleteNone of us know what is just around the corner and that is one of the reasons I think that I like to act almost impulsively. Sometimes there's a thing in the back of my mind that says 'if you don't just do this, you never will' ... so I just go for it. Hence us getting the caravan last year and making full use of it and having it all set, up, sorted and ready for us to use as another permanent base.
DeleteAs of last week we are now completely mortgage free and have had no other debts for years, so we are free to choose what to do next with absolutely no ties. It's a very good position to be in and one that we have been working hard towards ever since we got together back in 2004.
Yay to being mortgage free, well done!!! I think once we are free of ours, it will change how we feel about a lot of things. I love the idea of a static caravan or a cabin, small, basic and easy to maintain, giving the freedom to do other things. I think it's why I love camping, just having all you need and no more. I really want and need to simplify my life, don't want bigger, don't want more stuff or responsibility.
DeleteI think a static caravan on a smallish site would suit you both down to the ground. You could do as we did and set your garden up with herbs, a few food crops and easy to maintain plants. It really is the best of both worlds. And yes getting rid of 'stuff' is good, it's a huge weight of your shoulders. 😀
DeleteLovely to read your story. It's great that you could work out a solution to suit you both and I daresay at sometime in the future you will reassess your needs/wants again- I mean, how many puppies can you fit in a caravan lol!! x
ReplyDeleteOooh ... you can fit a lot of Chihuahua's into a caravan ;-)
DeleteAnd three little dogs and cat could travel very well.
We moved on to a narrowboat when we wanted to downsize. We have now upsized to a widebeam.
ReplyDeleteI know ... I LOVE your adventurous spirit, and have followed your journey with interest. Whenever we walk along the canal near our Van we think of you and when we're in Reading I imagine you chugging through The Oracle.
DeleteI read your blog too Hester!
DeleteIt sounds like both of you have worked out the best way for each of you to thrive and still be a happy couple. Congratulations. That says a lot about your commitment.I hope life continues to be good and happy for you.
ReplyDeleteAww ... thank you, what a lovely comment :-)
DeleteI enjoyed your story and the important thing is that you are each doing what makes you happy! Do you think that you will sell the place in Wales eventually? You have both put so much work into it that I imagine you can make a very nice profit. Didn't you at one time have a smaller place you were renting with plans to possibly retire there? Is that still something you might do? You said to ask questions! Whatever you each do and however you choose to do it I hope you will be happy and live a life you have always dreamed of! And it does not matter what anyone else thinks because it is YOUR life! I have always enjoyed following your blogs and wish happiness to you both!
ReplyDeleteThank you, and to answer your questions ...
DeleteYes we WILL sell our main Welsh home. The work we have put into it should help it sell quicker, although there will be no huge profit as Alan has invested heavily, but we should just about recoup that outlay.
Yes we have a ground floor flat with garden nearby, currently tenanted on a month by month basis, that will be our Welsh home and company office in the near future. Yes that is our 'retirement base'.
Thanks for your good wishes :-)
Good for you for making the decision to move on with your dreams. It's brave but we only have one life eh?
DeleteExactly 🙂
DeleteWe went from a mobile home to a flat then to a house with big garden in a village. We have been in this house on the edge of town for 31 years and its time to downsize. Its good to be realistic and honest with what you need and want at different points in your life.
ReplyDeleteThat's very true, you DO need to be realistic and willing to adapt and that I think is what keeps life happier and more in tune with the various stages of your life.
DeleteI love change, not just change for changes sake, but change that reflects how you want to live your live at any particular time. I have never been afraid to hold my hands up and say 'it's time to move on, this is not for me' ... as I think I am proving!!
Thank you for going through everything - I've followed your progress for many years and have admired both of you and all your hard work. After reading your blog I always laughed when I heard people talk about wanting to move to the country for a slower and simpler life - I've never heard of two people working so hard in all my life!
ReplyDeleteYou both deserve your best life and as I get older I truly appreciate the choice to scale down my life in many ways. I look forward to following your progress.
Sometimes it's easier to just do a blog post that sets things out as they are, than to have people wondering and being afraid to ask an outright question.
DeleteYes, it's been hard work but we've always enjoyed submersing ourselves in a project, now though I think I have just had enough and have craved a true simple life for a while. That and a wish to travel together has been what has pushed us to have a major re-think. You can't travel far together if there are lots of responsibilities at home.
I've been reading your different blogs since 2011 and I love the way you love your lives. You are a wonderful source of inspiration and motivation. Thank you
ReplyDeleteThank you, another lovely comment.
DeleteI am blessed with a lovely bunch of readers. Thank you for taking the time to both read AND comment :-)
I think your journey has been eye opening to me and what I have shared with my husband of your journey has inspired us to start a simpler life. We are aging and so can't do as much as we used to, this means a smaller garden. Yet we are planting other things that sustain us, beautiful flowers, fruit trees and bushes. Things that while they do need tending, need a little less tending.
ReplyDeleteYour challenges make me challenge myself. While I can't do them exactly as you I switch them up to match life in Canada.
Thanks. God bless.
It really is the best isn't it when we simplify things. I feel so much better for it. Challenging yourself is good too, having something to aim towards is very good.
DeleteIt is great that you are both so flexible and willing to make changes to suit your current desires and interests.
ReplyDeleteWe are in the midst of figuring out our next living arrangements change. Two years ago we moved across the USA to be near my FIL who was in care just north of Los Angeles. We bought a smaller home in a 55+ community nearby to keep the drive down but that left us at least a one hour drive from the nearest son and DIL and 7 to 8 hours drive to the others with our only grandchild. Now that he is no longer living we know we want to be much closer to the 2 1/2 year old grand so are trying to figure out where to move to since they live in one of the most expensive housing markets in the country. We are experimenting with the idea of being an hour plus drive away from them in a vibrant small city with more reasonable housing. Then the question is how much house and yard! I haven't missed being responsible for all of that these past 2 years. We are 66 and 69 so also considering how long we might be able to live independently and as someone mentioned what situation would work for the one who live longest.
Gosh, you have a lot to consider. If it's just the two of you you can get a small place with a small yard and live quite simply, which should free up a smidge of capital to leave in the bank.
DeleteSusan above, is so right when she points out that we should all be able to live individually if necessary, as well as being a couple, and make future living plans to suit this. It's hard to think about but very important.
Sue, thank you for sharing this very personal situation. We are all different and 'normal' does just not work for some people (I count myself in this minority) Also, things do not work out as planned; we used to make so many plans which got changed for different reasons that now we have a completely different outlook. We have built in a financial safety net that we feel comfortable with and have so much flexibility now - we obviously have to work, but do a job that we both enjoy (mostly) and can work additional months to save for a big expense or treat. Also, with our motorhome if life ever gets too much we can just pack up and go!
ReplyDeleteI think your lifestyle is brilliant, and yes it suits you both down to the ground. Who wants 'normal' when we do finally sell our holding the money will be our financial buffer for the future and free us up for traveling. Maybe a motorhome would have been a better but than our tourer ... we are still pondering over this!
DeleteHa ha, the biggest dilemma in the world - motorhome or caravan? For us it was always motorhome due to the way we like to travel (ie move around not settle in any place for very long) but the trade-off is less space. However, for us the biggest benefit to motorhome is the greater payload because we carry most of our 'stuff' with us all the time! (but we still regularly discuss a caravan)
DeleteHi Sue,
DeleteI've been following you since you moved to Oxfordshire, which seems ages ago now. You had the kind of life I aspired to,but it wasn't to be.
It took our short visit to you a few summers ago, for me to realize how much David would have hated that kind of life. For months afterwards, we talked and researched and soul searched until we could both verbalise what we wanted from our life together. Now we know and are working out our plans together. We know our plans for retirement now and how to get there.
I have my Garden which is fruitful but takes me a long while to do now because of health problems and David looks after the house and feeds us, which is a good thing really as he is no gardener. (He reckons he could kill Astro turf !!!), and we both look out for each other.
Thanks for sharing your life with us all.
Kim
Lovely to hear from you Kim 🙂
DeleteI'm so glad you have worked out what is 'right' for both of you. It made me smile that your visit to me only served to show you that ours wasn't the life for you, and then it turned out it wasn't the life for me either 🤣🤣
Keep in touch ... and you know where we are!
Just catching up with your lovely blog Sue and would just like to add, like many other readers, how you have been an inspiration to me throughout your journeys. Didn't quite get it at first when you moved to your caravan as I have always loved your place in Wales. You have explained your situation beautifully and I think I was looking at it all from rose tinted spectacles. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us and I know I am not alone in saying how much I have always enjoyed your writing.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad this post has helped explain things for you and lots of others readers, family members and friends. I realise it was perhaps a long time coming but sometimes it's hard to get down in writing what is in your mind and what you want to say. So I simply waited until I had the words.
DeleteI so admire your honesty Sue and love your new blog xo
ReplyDeleteThank you Claire. xx
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