I fail at being alone. Not during the everyday times but at the holidays & such. I need my adult children, their families, and my grandgirls near me. They are the air I breathe. ~Andrea xoxo
I think that, reduced to its essence, the ability to be alone says a lot about how comfortable we are within our own skins. Some people cannot bear to be alone, to pause, to reflect, to make peace within themselves. Others are perfectly comfortable to draw their solitude about them like a beloved warm and tattered cardigan. People who learn to love themselves comfortably can turn that love outward in the most beautiful way.
I think that being alone by choice is quite different from it being forced upon you ,either through bereavement, divorce or other things . I really enjoy being on my own but it doesn't happen very often but I also feel so sorry for those who are missing company, it's a funny old world at the moment ,so many thoughts and emotions.
Clare who commented on your other blog and got a 'bit cross' when you explained about the British Restaurants said she had come across two other blogs doing the same challenge - wonder who they are? Seems a bit of a strange coincidence, although I was always told that imitation is the greatest form of flattery.
As for the alone thing, not quite my first choice but I'm coping 99% of the time and it happens to a hell of a lot of people at sometime in their lives.
Most times I do not mind living and being alone....no real choice as no family. I do find holidays hard.....memories of what used to be and are no longer. This year is very tough...I just need a hug and no one around to give me one. Pretty sad at this stage of my life. I took all decorations down yesterday as they were making me depressed. I am not usually like this bit can cry quite easily....started to do so as I am typing this. I go out daily so I interact with someone even if just in a store. I never thought I would be like this at 66 years. Happy my life is on the down side with all going on and not young any more.
I am so sorry that you feel so sad but totally understand why you do, there are so many that feel as you do. I hope that you will soon be able to get your hug, My 86 year old mother sent my sister and I a shawl each to wrap around our shoulders as she hasn't been able to give us a hug since March but we look forward to the day that we can get the real thing. I wish I could send you one but instead I am sending you a virtual hug , please stay strong, there will be things to look forward to and you are doing the right thing by going out each day,, and try to see or hear something that makes you smile, best wishes, Chrissie.
Before I met my husband I was alone for 17 years, most times I was fine but some Sundays I felt alone and lonely, so on those occasions I went out and when I got back I was fine.. I was a teacher so busy in the week.. so I can understand how some people don't like being alone. I try to phone people who are widowed regularly just to say I'm thinking about you.
I think everyone knows I like living alone and doing my own thing. I do sometimes think about missing the closeness of other people, and have come to the conclusion that I avoid anyone who wants to be close to me. I don't like the huggy thing. I am happy when I have had a good old chinwag with someone, and we say cheerio, see you later, and go our separate ways.
I've met several of Osho's disciples during my travels in India. I don't always agree with his ideas but that quote is just perfect. My mum always used to tell me that we couldn't find love until we truly loved ourselves. I love being on my own, I'm up at least two hours before Jon every morning and he comes to bed much later than I do. We love each other and the time we spend together but neither are dependent on the other for happiness. xxx
I'm happy on my own. I don't need someone else to complete me so to speak. Well , maybe a four legged friend. X
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DeleteI agree too!
DeleteI fail at being alone. Not during the everyday times but at the holidays & such. I need my adult children, their families, and my grandgirls near me. They are the air I breathe. ~Andrea xoxo
ReplyDeleteI like being on my own - and I like it when friends and/or family come round too.
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Or, as the Dalai Lama said, "real love is not based on attachment". (Somebody gave me his "Little Book of Wisdom" once).
ReplyDeleteI think that, reduced to its essence, the ability to be alone says a lot about how comfortable we are within our own skins. Some people cannot bear to be alone, to pause, to reflect, to make peace within themselves. Others are perfectly comfortable to draw their solitude about them like a beloved warm and tattered cardigan. People who learn to love themselves comfortably can turn that love outward in the most beautiful way.
ReplyDeleteI don't mind spending time alone.
ReplyDeleteI think that being alone by choice is quite different from it being forced upon you ,either through bereavement, divorce or other things . I really enjoy being on my own but it doesn't happen very often but I also feel so sorry for those who are missing company, it's a funny old world at the moment ,so many thoughts and emotions.
ReplyDeleteClare who commented on your other blog and got a 'bit cross' when you explained about the British Restaurants said she had come across two other blogs doing the same challenge - wonder who they are? Seems a bit of a strange coincidence, although I was always told that imitation is the greatest form of flattery.
ReplyDeleteAs for the alone thing, not quite my first choice but I'm coping 99% of the time and it happens to a hell of a lot of people at sometime in their lives.
Thanks for the heads up ... I hadn't seen her follow up comment!!
DeleteYou have coped amazingly well Sue, you really do have my full admiration. Xx
Most times I do not mind living and being alone....no real choice as no family. I do find holidays hard.....memories of what used to be and are no longer. This year is very tough...I just need a hug and no one around to give me one. Pretty sad at this stage of my life. I took all decorations down yesterday as they were making me depressed. I am not usually like this bit can cry quite easily....started to do so as I am typing this. I go out daily so I interact with someone even if just in a store. I never thought I would be like this at 66 years. Happy my life is on the down side with all going on and not young any more.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that you feel so sad but totally understand why you do, there are so many that feel as you do. I hope that you will soon be able to get your hug, My 86 year old mother sent my sister and I a shawl each to wrap around our shoulders as she hasn't been able to give us a hug since March but we look forward to the day that we can get the real thing. I wish I could send you one but instead I am sending you a virtual hug , please stay strong, there will be things to look forward to and you are doing the right thing by going out each day,, and try to see or hear something that makes you smile, best wishes, Chrissie.
DeleteBefore I met my husband I was alone for 17 years, most times I was fine but some Sundays I felt alone and lonely, so on those occasions I went out and when I got back I was fine.. I was a teacher so busy in the week.. so I can understand how some people don't like being alone. I try to phone people who are widowed regularly just to say I'm thinking about you.
ReplyDeleteI think everyone knows I like living alone and doing my own thing. I do sometimes think about missing the closeness of other people, and have come to the conclusion that I avoid anyone who wants to be close to me. I don't like the huggy thing. I am happy when I have had a good old chinwag with someone, and we say cheerio, see you later, and go our separate ways.
ReplyDeleteI've met several of Osho's disciples during my travels in India. I don't always agree with his ideas but that quote is just perfect.
ReplyDeleteMy mum always used to tell me that we couldn't find love until we truly loved ourselves.
I love being on my own, I'm up at least two hours before Jon every morning and he comes to bed much later than I do. We love each other and the time we spend together but neither are dependent on the other for happiness. xxx